Reachout to her and beg her, also reach out to her family members to beg too

if she is not accepting your plea, please leave her alone and face your life, time will heal everything

You will be surprised she will come back on her own after a while.

Jaycobbs:
She called your family, friends, colleagues... you'll never be able to win back the trust you lost. Even if you do, it won't be at the same level.

One very big issue staring you in the face is the long distance relationship you're having with your lawfully wedded wife. Either quit the job and find one closer to home, or arrange for your wife to live with you in the new location permanently, or for as long as the job requires.

Newlywed couple, y'all need to be spending as much time together as possible.

If your wife was around, you wouldn't have fallen into that trap. Make the move and make arrangements to always be together with your wife, show her your actions and she'll see you're serious about avoiding future temptations.

It won't be easy, but it's a first step.

If you're going to step out on your wife, at least do it with someone decent. I'm not condoning adultery, but nigga, if you missed the red flags in this your new side piece, then juggling multiple women is not for you because they'll probably both connive to kill you. You're better off remaining faithful to the Mrs.

"You got high"... Lol. Bro, is this the example you want to set for your kids? I don't know what got you high but as you can see, it probably doesn't have good effects, so maybe you should FVCKING GET RID OF THAT? I dunno.

You'll need to do a lot of begging. And the people who could have helped you might already be disappointed, so you may have to do most of the shii on your own. If you want her back, be ready to crawl.

There'll probably be lots of gifts, long talks, missed calls, and spending involved

Oh, and if she decides to revenge by cheating on you (who knows maybe you missed that red flag in your wife too), then don't complain because you set the ball rolling yourself.

Look for a male figure in her life she respects (pastor or something) and get them to set a meeting where you both talk.

If you want more couple's therapy, hmu.

If, against all odds, you're able to fix this, then keep your pants zipped, keep constant communication with your wife regardless of distance (you should make time to have at least thirty minutes to an hour of flirty, dirty conversation with your wife every day if you're separated by distance. This should keep the sexual spark in your marriage going), take steps to rid your mindset of cheating, and set up time to go for therapy with her to rebuild that trust you just casually threw away.

Toooo much z world..... The marriage is as good as dead.... As you lay your bed, so you lay on it

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

don't mind her wait a bit if she don't come back, go for someone else don't be aimp

fykes:
Take this advice and take it well...Don't act...don't beg...act like you didn't see the messages she left you. Never bring it up first...

Take it from me...you done messed up, take it up the chin and act like it's no biggie...she will come around much sooner than if you give in to her drama and go begging.

If anybody calls you, tell em you respect them but what's done is done...you will rather they give yall space to deal with it as a couple.

Your wife will get the message...she will wonder why you not acting remorseful? She will wnder if she was so bad and turn thr blame on herself.

It's cold...I know...but that's gonna get the job done sooner than if you go explaining, begging or doing all the things conventional wisdom advises.

When all is said and done...let ur subsequent strayings be just about sex...chemistry and lust.
No good reason you should be chatting and texting a side piece you just met when you are newly married.
Boundaries ain't just physical...should be psychological too

This is a pro.

Greetings from s fellow pro

Broken1985:


I must thank you for this.
Thanks for the care and time.
Lessons abound in your response and I am grateful.

I will keep you updated.

Guy you may follow any other advice he gave but you see that 'leave your job' advice, better not follow it else it will be the beginning of your romance with shegé.

If this is a true story then don't worry about your marriage because it's gone and over both in context and reality.

Forget begging, it could have been the first move but your wife had already reported you to family and friends, so just be ready to face the sunami of blames from everyone and everywhere.

Don't start by trying to shift the blame on anything or anybody, Don't try to spurn the story. It has happened, it has happened. Just say sorry and keep quiet. Don't even say it's the devil's handwork. Just sorry and keep shut. You will be surprised that after blaming you, those same people will still opt to plead with your wife on your behalf, even her own parents and siblings.

About your wife, she is angry and grieving right now. She's full of anger and regrets. Just continue to beg and please stay away from her if she is over-boiling. Just beg and beg and give her some time to cool down.

If she doesn't park out, it means one of two things. She could be still interested in continuing the marriage or waiting to deal with you one way or another.

But if she move out. Then also give her some months, if she doesn't forgive you after every begging and apologies. Then ask for divorce and relocate to another place and restart your life.

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Another fictitious story.

Second base abeg…

buzquet:
Bro, you should not be ashamed. Just man up, apologise briefly to your wife. Don't be too emotional about it. She will constantly drag you into her emotional frame because of the issue.. resist the urge to explain. Whoever she has reported you to, if they call you, just apologise briefly and move on. Don't explain too much for anybody. Remain firm as a man you be. She will come around.


Please don't make mistake of trying to please her too much. Just make sure you pay all the bills as you dey pay am. Don't panic because if you panic, you will press self destruction button.


Women don't care about morality, they only care about if you are Strong Or Weak. If you are Strong, she will forgive you and move on. But If you are weak, she will severally punish you for it till death do una part. Stand strong, sir

More wisdom to your brain sir

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Be an African. You guys are copying the west. How many wives and concubine did Solomon had? Abeg free yourself.

Dexy4yah:
I believe after your wife left the hotel....that same day you still knack that girl.



I know Una type

Report yourself to both your in-laws and your parents, and promised never to cheat again, if not that will be the end of the marriage.

Op, check very well and you will see that she's cheating too.
Lock up and let her do her worse.
What's the worst that could happen? - she leaves.
You can always find another woman but she can hardly find another man to love her.

Starhearts:
Pls don't listen any advice 4rm madam Jennyclay

I swear

What ever, you're a man, stand for your self.

If she can't pardon you, let her be for awhile.

But if you're not a man enough, continue running around like a toddler.

A drunkard and a cheat doesn't deserve a marriage. Get lost and stop wailing.

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Madam no dey play. She has completely destroyed your personality, your person and your ability to ever recover from this.
You will have to leave with the shame of people seeing you and pointing "that shameless man sleeps with young girls".
Life is hard.
If you've turned a new leave and intend to repent.
Then be the adult and clear the air with everyone she has spoken to about this issue.
Call family and try to make amends.
If you married her traditionally too then that's the way to go. Your people will know what to do.
But if you have really repented, then you have to learn to not think with your rod but your head.
Then one would ask about how come you already started cheating after only a few weeks of marriage? Don't you have control?
Still the trust would have lots of problems and wifey will never forget it, forgive is another issue

Broken1985:
Nairalanders,

Please don't crucify me yet, just advise me please. Had to utilize a new moniker for this.

I got married last year June and by February 2024, I was transferred to another state for work. I was bored in the city and probably made a mistake. The girl stays in same hotel, and works for a bank, also on a course. So we started talking and one thing led to another. This girl had her phone on audio record the two times we got down and recorded all the audio of the shit we did.

My wife came visiting and of course I defined boundaries the moment wifey was around. A few days back I got high and dozed off, my wife got into my phone saw our chats. Her last chat to me, was regarding the audio. My wife followed through the convo and she sent two 24 minute audios.

Before I could wake, Wifey was already gone from the hotel. And when I checked my phone I saw a long epistle and screen shots of what happened. Now she has called my entire family, friends everybody I know. I am so ashamed of myself.

Is there anything I can do to have her back.
Can she ever forgive me.

I feel so bad having betrayed her.

Where do you work?
How did your wife know that you were in an hotel?

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

Senseless small boy typing shit.
Wait till you're grown up before meddling with adult issues.ok

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You are lucky it's a new marriage, kids are not involved yet. If she wants to go, let her go, you will get yourself a new wife.
You cheated and so?
Moreover, she didn't catch you red handed, she foolishly went through your phone

Polygamist Otipoju, Nirfreak, middledimension, come and tell him he has done nothing wrong.

And that it is, his right to have as many wives that he wants, so, come and talk.

Your wife going through your phone while you are asleep says a lot about the trust in your marriage

Too much lies on this nairaland nowadays. Too many false stories

nams77:

This is a pro.

Greetings from s fellow pro

Lol... I hail you too

PerfectStranger:
Crying like you're not the bread winner of the house. Instead of getting your shìt together. Are you not a man?

All these Genz kids jumping into marriage. Can't even cheat successfully

PerfectStranger:
Crying like you're not the bread winner of the house. Instead of getting your shìt together. Are you not a man?

All these Genz kids jumping into marriage. Can't even cheat successfully

abi o. He surprised me self.. maybe its his wife bankrolling him, who knows

cybertron88:
I no understand u op. While I don't condone cheating, if u really respect ur marriage u should be very deliberate about who u cheat with. Some of these hoes are sent out to destroy homes. A lot of these babes out dare are on revenge mission. I blame u for this. What happens to the street code of leaving no paper trails. U bleeped a random babe and u know ur wife was coming why can't u clear ur history. Most of u guys are the one making it look as if it is guys that cheat the most when it is the other way around. A girl will staff various guys under ur nose without u even knowing cos they know how to clear thier cache. Considering ur marriage is really new is the more reason why I feel like punching u in the face before giving u any advise.

Imagine! The chats about the audios of you fvcking someone else twice on your phone? Costly carelessness most especially when you are not in total control of your marriage

Kizzygentle:
Nothing like u were bored in a different city.. only a year of marriage and u Don dey misbehave. I hate cheats with all my heart.. if u caught your wife in same act and read the chats and hear the voice records of your wife moaning to another man. Will u forgive her? Sometimes let's put ourselves in our partners shoes or better still imagine it's u that caught your wife. Will u pardon her?
Better go and marry that babe that was moaning for u in the voice record. Ashewo

if its my wife bank rolling me, yes I would forgive her

Take a pestle and hit yourself on the head! Woman wey you go invite one weekend knack till you bellefull

Dogalmighty17:
I don't understand what the problem is? Did you send her to go through your phone? My rule is anytime you go through my phone, whatever you see take it like that. Ask me nothing cos I owe you nothing.

If she wants to go let her go. Don't beg her. Na cheat you cheat you no kill person.

I totally agree with you. See the niggar begging a woman over banging another woman who does that., u are a man and you have that right to marry as many woman as u can bang 😂😂🤣🤣

Guy just bone tell her say ubdeybplan secondcwife

For me call d marriage quit xos no matter wat she no go forgive you. Is netter u go seperate wats now. Let her look 4 man tgat wont cheat on her ..even if i beg it is not change anything .

PerfectStranger:
Crying like you're not the bread winner of the house. Instead of getting your shìt together. Are you not a man?

All these Genz kids jumping into marriage. Can't even cheat successfully

Which kind comment be this 🙄🙄