Hello all. I am a guy of 30 years and I met a girl 2 months ago. I work in a multinational and I must say I am quite comfortable. I stay in a flat of my own, have 2 good cars and am also quite good looking. Now like I said I met this girl who is a graduate but not yet working and we became friends for about a month before I asked her out. Before then she showed me some kind of 'geeen' light which also showed she was interested in me. For example she could flash me consistenrly till I give her a call, sometimes she will call me in d middle of the night to say she wants to wish me a good night and even went to the extent of quarelling with her sibling
when the lattee demanded to know whom I was and why she is tripping for me so easily when she doesn't
know much about me. To be honest I still didn't count all these as anything as I realised I need to be myself and prove to the girl that am worth her love. Once in a while she acts like she is interested and sometimes she switches off like she raises her voice to me on the phone,sometimes dont pick my calls and claims she slept off.Though to be frank she apologises afterwards and even flashes me the next day to acknowledge my calls. I eventully asked her out and she said I should give her sometime only after 2 weeks to tell me she cannot date me because she doesn't like me. Like every normal guy I was so disappointed and I let her be. After her response to me she called me 2 days after with 3 calls in d day to say 'hello'. This got me thinking again and I resumed the game asking her if she could still be mine and d answer was still NO and she said that we should just stay friends. This got me thinking again and I had to do a little research as to her zodiac sign(she was born in the month of May which confirms that she is a taurus) and I got some astonishing 'reports' that taurus women have a need for security and trust, that they do not like to be rushed into relationships and that they weigh a lot of options before accepting to be in any relationship because they stand to be very very loyal to their partners though they can be quite stubborn at times. Thiis got me thinking about the whole thing
and I resolved to take a decision as follows: to be her
friend of course with no strings attached and also
during that course wait if she can have a change of
mind, but I will not develop feelings or rather try to
suppress my feelings and if I eventually find another girl I cherish I will go for her. Now my questions are
1. How long should /can I be in this 'friend zone'?
2. Is there a high probability that she will accept me later after gaining my trust.
Guys please note also that I like this girl so much no doubt about that that is why I have decided to take a decision like this. Also I am very experienced in relationship issues but this is just somewhat diferent from all what have seen. I must also say that I an a guy that every woman will dream of having (not bragging) as i am young and very comfortable and quite Godly too. I will love ladies in the house, taurus women in the house to give me their honest views as regards this. Mature minds only please. God bless you all.

I read up to the zodiac part and my eyes strolled away.

Oohhh i remenber that zone

not a good place to be in

i tell you bro

no hope

*shudders in amazement*
Op Don't tell me you're a learner?

Are we suppose to school you on what to do which is quite obvious, Ignore her calls totally and pretend you don't care, and see what happens in few days time..Use your Six sense Bro, It is as Simple as ABC

As long as you wish

Hello bro, @OP, This is what I think;

1) You have made yourself too available for her. She has you at her beck and call. She knows that you like her and she is using that to her advantage.

2) She is not really in love with you. A girl flashing you 10 times in a day doesn't signify love, she is just bored and sees you as her a tool to overcome her boredom.

3) Forget that Astrology bulls.hit , every girl desires trust and comfort in her man. But you asking her out for two times and she rejecting you means that she is not clearly interested in dating you, but probably keep you as a male equivalent of a side-chick.

3) Create scarcity, don't make yourself readily available for her. You seem like a great guy and there would be hundred of other girls out there that would be ready to date you without the stress and mind taunts this girl is giving you.

4) Even if she flashes, don't call her back. Let her use her credit to call you. She is in control of this 'pseudo-relationship' , you need to get back in charge.

5)Make her jealous, try to become friends with some new girl(s) and let her know about it. Don't give her your attention anymore, let her seek that attention.

6) When the above begins to work and she starts craving your attention again, have a heart-to-heart discussion with her.

7) Tell her that you are never going to be comfortable with being friends with her hence she needs to take a stand, does she really want to date you or not?

8 ) If the answer is NO, then it's time to let her go. Nothing beneficial for you will ever come out of this platonic friendship you are desiring.


GoodLuck.

this has got not to do with zodiac or zodiac status

me thinks the girls likes you but I don't know whats wrong with her

You need to champion her and act like a man

Maybe take out her during weekends and ask out again - tell her you want her etc.... be serious!

Let her know if she wants to be in or out? I mean you folks are adult here and not babies

If her attitude still remains then leave her alone! she's not serious yet and you don't have that time to keep waiting ......

don't call, if she flashes, do not return her calls! leave her alone

there are lot of ladies out there looking for serious and responsible guys! so go out and there and get one for yourself

Mynd_44: I read up to the zodiac part and my eyes strolled away.

Remain there till Jesus comes

Popowaa: Remain there till Jesus comes

Am very sure she must be a very beautiful girl hence the infatuation ( dont tell me "you love her" bullshit here). Men and fantasies, you would have thought so much about how you are going to lay her in bed and all that if not why don't you continue to be her friend, is there a crime having a girl as your close friend? she told you she isn't interested why cant you let her be? if you push yourself too much to get her dont you know you will have to be going through all that stress to keep her? We men are the cause of the reason why girls use us to do shakara, immediately she tells you she isnt interested you should have let her be, i know those types of girls, they will never be productive in that relationship, you will do the calling, the sending of airtime, the loving and all they will do is to sit down in one place and tell their friends how one "ode guy" is tripping for them.
if you were my friend i swear i for slap you this afternoon,, you dey vex me sef

Hmmmm. Thanks y' all

Bro thinking of laying her in bed is completely out of it. Thanks for posting all d same

niggi4life: Am very sure she must be a very beautiful girl hence the infatuation ( dont tell me "you love her" bullshit here). Men and fantasies, you would have thought so much about how you are going to lay her in bed and all that if not why don't you continue to be her friend, is there a crime having a girl as your close friend? she told you she isn't interested why cant you let her be? if you push yourself too much to get her dont you know you will have to be going through all that stress to keep her? We men are the cause of the reason why girls use us to do shakara, immediately she tells you she isnt interested you should have let her be, i know those types of girls, they will never be productive in that relationship, you will do the calling, the sending of airtime, the loving and all they will do is to sit down in one place and tell their friends how one "ode guy" is tripping for them.
if you were my friend i swear i for slap you this afternoon,, you dey vex me sef

Jah bless my man

faakay: this has got not to do with zodiac or zodiac status

me thinks the girls likes you but I don't know whats wrong with her

You need to champion her and act like a man

Maybe take out her during weekends and ask out again - tell her you want her etc.... be serious!

Let her know if she wants to be in or out? I mean you folks are adult here and not babies

If her attitude still remains then leave her alone! she's not serious yet and you don't have that time to keep waiting ......

don't call, if she flashes, do not return her calls! leave her alone

there are lot of ladies out there looking for serious and responsible guys! so go out and there and get one for yourself

Bro dalu o
God bless

oluafolabi: Hello bro, @OP, This is what I think;

1) You have made yourself too available for her. She has you at her beck and call. She knows that you like her and she is using that to her advantage.

2) She is not really in love with you. A girl flashing you 10 times in a day doesn't signify love, she is just bored and sees you as her a tool to overcome her boredom.

3) Forget that Astrology bulls.hit , every girl desires trust and comfort in her man. But you asking her out for two times and she rejecting you means that she is not clearly interested in dating you, but probably keep you as a male equivalent of a side-chick.

3) Create scarcity, don't make yourself readily available for her. You seem like a great guy and there would be hundred of other girls out there that would be ready to date you without the stress and mind taunts this girl is giving you.

4) Even if she flashes, don't call her back. Let her use her credit to call you. She is in control of this 'pseudo-relationship' , you need to get back in charge.

5)Make her jealous, try to become friends with some new girl(s) and let her know about it. Don't give her your attention anymore, let her seek that attention.

6) When the above begins to work and she starts craving your attention again, have a heart-to-heart discussion with her.

7) Tell her that you are never going to be comfortable with being friends with her hence she needs to take a stand, does she really want to date you or not?

8 ) If the answer is NO, then it's time to let her go. Nothing beneficial for you will ever come out of this platonic friendship you are desiring.


GoodLuck.

I'm sorry you 've been dumped into the friendship lagoon. Those zodiac signs are irrelevant.

Mynd_44: I read up to the zodiac part and my eyes strolled away.

. . Hehehehehehe. . . Same with me dude. . . Back to the topic

OP. . . Good Things Dont Come Easy. . . . D babe iz urs. . She iz already missing u datz y she called up to 3times dat day. . . . A hard try and ur in dude. . Tank me later. . . .

Hmmm thanks my man

Chinboli:


. . Hehehehehehe. . . Same with me dude. . . Back to the topic

OP. . . Good Things Dont Come Easy. . . . D babe iz urs. . She iz already missing u datz y she called up to 3times dat day. . . . A hard try and ur in dude. . Tank me later. . . .

Lexaccord: Hmmm thanks my man

ur welcome dude

my games trick but u need to be a man here not a wussy
1.create scarcity
2.stop calling her
3.form too busy
4.bring a new girl into ur life
5.i know she go be one beautiful girl..but ignore it..
6.make your life more interesting

she just wants to be the price and you the chaser.dont you ever idolize am.this traps you in the friends zone.let her see other tight shorties

Thanks

baggy4luv: my games trick but u need to be a man here not a wussy
1.create scarcity
2.stop calling her
3.form too busy
4.bring a new girl into ur life
5.i know she go be one beautiful girl..but ignore it..
6.make your life more interesting

she just wants to be the price and you the chaser.dont you ever idolize am.this traps you in the friends zone.let her see other tight shorties

Lexaccord: Hello all. I am a guy of 30 years and I met a girl 2 months ago. I work in a multinational and I must say I am quite comfortable. I stay in a flat of my own, have 2 good cars and am also quite good looking. I must also say that I an a guy that every woman will dream of having (not bragging) as i am young and very comfortable and quite Godly too.

I cannot have all the qualities listed above and a small girl will put me in friend zone THEY NEVER BORN AM!!

WackyJ1:
I cannot have all the qualities listed above and a small girl will put me in friend zone THEY NEVER BORN AM!!

smh

kulyie: smh

Na you wan put me for there?

How long?. As long as you have the "patience" to keep hoping and waiting in "friend-zoning"

@ OP, you have to wait till I come out of my friend zone.
After then, I'll give you an answer.

The only thing I know is that it sucks.

Good luck!

Op friend zone is agonizin. Jst follow d ppl above's advice

Wats big deal in being friends wit a lady u admire?

All friendship must nt end in r/ship.

Op, if she says friends,then give her friendship. Then, look for someone else and date.

Btw, are u serious abt that tarus stuff?? I ask because dats my zodiac sign.

@op Wow, what a nice write up! No wonder those ladies have things to gossip about, because they are simply talking about guys like you. On a serious note, what else those she want from you? You asked her out TWICE and she turned you down TWICE, for what reason -- she does not like you -- later kept flashing the person you don't like and you "mumu-ly" (sorry, I am very angry at you!) called her back, for what? Why is she torturing you? And I can't blame her because you gave her the privilege. Let me ask you one further question, who is a friend? I know a friend is not someone that flashes you ten times a day, so keep a friend in her rightful place. One thing I know is "nobody is 'indispensable", so all those your I like her so much is just a statement. You are a man, so act like one! Look around, and see that there are so many options -- you can tell her this. The longer she lingers around, the more you miss out on that real person, not this mirage you are hoping to date. Pick your solution from my rants, because you are an adult that does not need to be spoon feed.

Thanks

kundi90: @op Wow, what a nice write up! No wonder those ladies have things to gossip about, because they are simply talking about guys like you. On a serious note, what else those she want from you? You asked her out TWICE and she turned you down TWICE, for what reason -- she does not like you -- later kept flashing the person you don't like and you "mumu-ly" (sorry, I am very angry at you!) called her back, for what? Why is she torturing you? And I can't blame her because you gave her the privilege. Let me ask you one further question, who is a friend? I know a friend is not someone that flashes you ten times a day, so keep a friend in her rightful place. One thing I know is "nobody is 'indispensable", so all those your I like her so much is just a statement. You are a man, so act like one! Look around, and see that there are so many options -- you can tell her this. The longer she lingers around, the more you miss out on that real person, not this mirage you are hoping to date. Pick your solution from my rants, because you are an adult that does not need to be spoon feed.

Guys, I appreciatelall your comments but the matter don pass this one o!!! Promise to post as events unfold in d next few days. That's only when you guyz will appreciate that diferent women exist!